The Eye of the Storm

I feel like I’m in the eye of the storm right now. The last few days have been a little nuts…the house in total chaos as Sherry and I painted, decluttered, and drank wine (I also worked – not while drinking wine!). Ben’s aunt Aisha has been here for most of the week and she never stops cleaning. I can see my reflection in the cooking pots. Our contractor, Marcos, was here over the weekend working to repair the water damage from last winter, so the family room is all askew. We went for a quick run to the Brimfield Antique Show yesterday, followed by a spontaneous dinner party for 15. It has been a great combination of distractions, fun, and forward progress.

Right now I am home alone, sitting in front of the fan and soaking up the sudden calm after the storm.  Everything that is going to be spackled and painted before our departure has been spackled and painted. Some friends unexpectedly offered to have Norah visit them in Maine from today until Thursday, and another friend invited Aliya to sleep over from Tuesday to Thursday. I’m looking at my list for the week, and although there’s a lot on it, I think it might be doable if I don’t sleep.  There’s a moms’ movie night, a birthday dinner with a friend, two “hasta luego” get-togethers, a birthday lunch, and a trip to the aquarium on the calendar for this week, and I’m going to enjoy every one of these events and not worry about what’s left to do.

But if I’m in the eye of the storm, that means there’s more storminess to come. When the plasterer was here today looking at the very minor water-damage plastering job, I was asking him about covering our old horsehair plaster with blueboard and skim-coating it. In my mind, this was something we would consider doing at a much later date…I was just curious about how much it would cost per room. While we were chatting, Ben decided that the day after the kids and I leave for Mexico would be a great time for the plasterer and Marcos to address the cracks in the living room and dining room walls and ceilings – remove all furniture, take down all trim, install blueboard, skim coat, extend the jambs and reinstall the trim, paint it all, and put back all of the furniture, curtains, etc.

Considering that I just painted an area of wall that Ben ripped wallpaper off of two years ago, I’m thinking this might be a bit ambitious, especially since it needs to be done before Ben’s sister and her family arrive from Morocco to live in our house. On the bright side, I won’t be here to witness this particular storm.  I’m not going to worry about it…I’m not even going to think about it.  I’m going to pack my bags and make my escape.

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Besides kettle korn and pilgrim sandwiches, this is my only purchase from Brimfield, but it makes me so happy!  I’ve been looking for a shelf to mount on the wall as a nightstand, because Norah’s bed has drawers under it so we can’t use a table beside the bed.  I saw this old spoon rack at one of the first booths, turned it upside-down and thought it might work.  After looking around at all of the other options with no luck, I bought this for ten bucks, painted it, and I think it will be perfect for a small lamp and an alarm clock.

Norah Nightstand

Transition

This experience of planning, purging, packing, and heading off for an adventure has been a lot like pregnancy. First, there are the ups and downs of will-it-happen-or-not, then the excitement of it’s-really-happening mixed with the stress of there’s-too-much-to-do and how-will-I-do-this. And finally the emotional and physical strain during the final days before birth.

For the last couple of weeks I’ve definitely been in the Transition phase of our Mexico journey, which in labor and delivery terms is the time after hours (or days) of labor and before the final phase of birth. It’s the toughest time for a mother, when the fear and exhaustion threaten to get the best of her and she wants to turn back but it’s a little late for that. Some of the signs of Transition are loss of modesty, irritability, loss of resolve, need for emotional support, feeling out of control, and self-doubt. Yup – I’ve been in Transition.

It’s been a while since I’ve had a baby, so I looked up some tips for getting through it:

What you might do:

  • Change Positions Frequently
  • Focus Your Mind on the Present
  • Use Water
  • Get on Hands and Knees
  • Remember to Breathe
  • Use Visualization
  • Focus on the Baby

What your birth companion might do:

  • Cold Compresses
  • Massage Techniques
  • Emotional Encouragement
  • Cue Phrases
  • Tell Her She’s Almost Done
  • Keep Her Focused on the Present
  • Keep Her Environment Calm and Quiet
  • Whisper Affirmations

usatvolcanoLast week, Sherry – my BFF of almost 30 years, called to see if she could come to visit for a few days to help. She was not the first person to offer help – many others have asked what I needed and of course I said I was all set. It was the truth…I didn’t really feel like I NEEDED anything, but the idea of plowing through the last days of Transition with Sherry sounded a lot like a party, and I do love a party.  She has been a big help with the final preparations on the house, but has also been instrumental in helping me decide which last-minute to-dos should go on the F*ck-it List. Let’s just say there’s a large pile of bins in the basement that will need our attention next summer.

12 days left! Time to push!

Essaouira

I never thought I’d say this while visiting Morocco in August, but today I felt a bit chilly.  Seriously!

We left Marrakech this morning, where it was very hot and dry, and drove a few hours to Essaouira, where it is VERY windy and cool.  It is BEAUTIFUL here – we love it!  The medina is small and it’s easy to find our way around.  The area is known for woodcarving, and the wood products are very inexpensive so we couldn’t resist making a few purchases.  We visited the fort, the port, and had a great dinner at Tazos, where there was an AMAZING magician.  He did a trick where he told us to pick an imaginary card from an imaginary deck, and then he pulled the card we were thinking of out of a real deck.  Very cool.  On the way to Essaouira we also had a camel ride (and Abdou tried to force me to drink camel milk), and stopped at an argan oil cooperative.  Our riad, La Fontaine Bleue, is beautiful. 

Some photos from today…

Riding camels within city limits, led by an 8-year-old boy.  What could go wrong?

Camel 1

Camel 2

Camel 3

Camel 4

Camel 5

Camel 7

Camel 6 

Camel 8

The argan cooperative…it is SO MUCH WORK to get the nuts out, but Elizabeth is considering a career change:

Argan 1

Argan 2

Argan 3

Argan 4

Argan 5

Our first glimpse of Essaouira:

Essaouira

Essaouira 2

Our beautiful riad:

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LFB 5

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LFB 7

LFB 8

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LFB 11

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LFB 13

Shopping!

Shopping 1

Shopping 2

Shopping 3

The fort…

Fort 1

Fort 2

The port…

Port 1 Port 2

Port 3

Port 4

Port 5

And the magician from dinner, Youssef.  At one point he made a bottle of wine appear.  We’ve spent the last two weeks hunting for wine and he pulled it out of thin air.  My hero.

Mag 1

Mag 2

Mag 3

Mag 4

Mag 5

We’re headed back to Mohammedia tomorrow!

Marrakech Express – Not.

Over the weekend I planned the last outing of our trip to Morocco – a night in Marrakech, a night in Essaouira, and a few other stops along the way for Elizabeth, the 3 amigas, and me.  The first thing I arranged was the transportation – an SUV driven by Dani’s boss (Nourredine).  I then booked the non-refundable riad accommodations, and arranged for a guide to take us shopping in the Marrakech medina.  I was excited about this last leg of the trip and feeling pretty accomplished, but I forgot to consider the Morocco factor.

This morning, Nourredine was supposed to pick us up in the SUV at 9.  We were packed, fed, clothed and ready to go.  At 9:30, Dani showed up with the mini-bus.  He told us that Nourredine couldn’t drive us because someone had died, and that his brother-in-law Abdou was driving us instead.  I was counting on Nourredine because he speaks English and it was our first foray without an Arabic-speaker, but Dani told us that Abdou speaks “shweeya” (a little) English so I figured we could make it work.

The next issue was that the touristic license had expired and Abdou was in Casablanca at that moment, trying to get it renewed.  So Dani had come to drive us to Casablanca to meet up with Abdou, the SUV, and the renewed license (insha’Allah).  Ben rode with us to make sure everything went smoothly, and Norah came along for the ride.  Dani was returning to Mohammedia after he handed us off to Abdou, so Ben and Norah would catch a ride back with him.

We drove to Casablanca in the mini-bus and pulled over into a shady spot that appeared to be a driving lane based on the cars honking and swerving around us.  We waited there and called Abdou several times to see what was happening at the licensure office.  The office opened at 9 and it was now 10:30, but the man with the rubber stamp had not yet arrived.  After a while, Ben called Nourredine and Nourredine decided that Dani should drive us to Marrakech in the mini-bus.  The main problem with that is that we had Ben and Norah, who were not prepared to go to Marrakech.  Ben considered buying new clothes in Marrakech, but we had left Adlani at home.  It probably would have taken a while for Adlani to notice that Ben and Norah were missing, but I didn’t think we should leave him home unexpectedly for 3 days.  We also thought about going home to get clean clothes for Dani, since he too was unprepared for a 3-day trip since he had set out on a 45-minute drive from Mohammedia to Casablanca.

We decided to send Norah and Ben home to Mohammedia on the train, and we headed for the train station.  Somehow on the way Ben decided that we (Elizabeth, the 3 amigas, and I) should take the train to Marrakech, and that Abdou would meet us in Marrakech with the SUV tomorrow.  We piled out of the mini-bus in front of the train station, with me wondering how we were going to get from the train station to the riad, where and when we would meet the SUV tomorrow, etc.  At that moment we got the call that the guy with the stamp had arrived and we were in business.  Back in the mini-bus and across town to meet Abdou.

Once we were finally on our way, it took about 3 hours to drive to Marrakech.  Abdou’s shweeya English and my shweeya Arabic resulted in some interesting conversations along the way.  He told me about his family, pointed out the different crops we passed, tried to tell me about some of the notable towns, and where some of the rivers went.  The vast majority of my 100ish Arabic words are nouns, so the balance of the discussion covered the list of Moroccan foods that I know how to cook, and me teaching Abdou the English word for each type of farm animal we passed.  My favorite exchange was when we stopped at a rest area and asked if it was ok to leave my camera on the front seat floor.  Abdou said, “Safe!  No Ali Baba here!”  That’s a relief.

Our first order of business in Marrakech was to find the store that sells wine (“white tea”).  Abdou couldn’t find it so that mission was aborted with no discussion about whether aborting was an option.  He stopped several times to ask directions to the riad and I did a decent job of directing him with my map and my recollection of the route.  He dropped us at Dar el Besha and we knew exactly how to walk to the riad.  This is not as easy as it sounds – there are no street names, the streets are tiny, and scooters are constantly whizzing by.  My mental list of directions within the medinas has included “turn right at the bees swarming around the candy,” “go past the fake Louis Vuitton,” and “turn right just after the hedgehog.”

We were probably a little overconfident during our walk to the riad because we’re staying at the same one from last week, so poor Elizabeth was lagging at the end of the line by herself.  A teenager started trying to talk to us in French, and I told him we didn’t speak French (in French) and kept walking.  Boys are constantly trying to talk to someone in our group but for the most part they’re harmless.  We were almost to the riad when I looked back and saw Elizabeth slap the boy, who had grabbed her butt.  Idiot.

Our rooms at the beautiful Riad Dar Sara (which I highly recommend, especially because Ben left his iphone there last week and it was waiting for us when we arrived):

Another Abdou (the same one from our Marrakech tour last week) arrived to take us out shopping, and he did a great job of finding what we were looking for in the medina.  By chance he walked us through the metalworkers’ souk, and I saw amazingly beautiful handmade locks.  I bought one, mostly for the chance to talk to the craftsman and take lots of photos (they are here on my work blog).  He also makes handcuffs in case any of you are interested.

Look how happy he was when he put the cuffs on Aliya…

Jewelry shopping with Abdou (we were so happy to have his help!):

The same store sold antique locks!

We did one lap around Djemaa el Fna where Elizabeth got some exposure therapy for her snake phobia, and Abdou led us to a good restaurant for dinner.  I had asked Abdou about where to get white tea, and he decided we should take a caleche (horse and carriage) to the supermarket, so off we went.  As we should expect by now, when we arrived at the supermarket, “La Cave” (where they sell alcohol) was closed.  I may have actually cried a little.

This was on the way to the supermarket before we experience the agony of defeat (again):

The caleche dropped us off near the riad, and Abdou walked us to the door so Elizabeth didn’t get groped again.  It cracked me up that when the girls heard what happened, they decided they should walk behind and in front of Elizabeth because they took a self-defense class.  I love seeing them so confident and self-sufficient.

Tomorrow we head for Essaouira!