Neighborhood Watch

I’m at home alone with the housekeeper, Adela, right now, who talks to me in Spanish muy rapido even though she knows mi español es no bueno. Oh well, I guess it’s the best way to learn. I think I told her that a) the kids went to the hot springs with my friends, b) she only needs to change the sheets on my bed because the kids are still insisting on sleeping with me (yes, it’s crowded), and c) no, she won’t bother me if she cleans while I’m working. I have a magazine article to write while I have this extra quiet time, but I’m used to tuning out the noise, including people talking directly to me.

La CalleYesterday, Norah and I went to the papeleria (paper store) on our street to have a couple of copies made and buy some envelopes (they’re sold individually). We met the owners – Miguel and Vero, and spent a few minutes chatting with Miguel, who noticed Norah’s Spanish and told her that he expects her to only speak Spanish to him. One of my hopes in coming to San Miguel was that the kids’ brains will switch to Spanish more quickly. They are used to speaking Spanish at school but on the street it takes them a few seconds to get into Spanish mode.  Most of the people we’ve met here are trying to help me with this by forcing the kids to only speak to them in Spanish.

I told Miguel that we live on his street – we’re just a few houses up on the opposite side. I had already warned the kids not to blab our address to every Tom, Dick, and Pedro, so when Miguel asked which house I hesitated and he immediately said, “¿La casa amarilla?” (the yellow house). I said yes, and he said that he watches the neighborhood…everyone watches the neighborhood – not in a creepy way, in a “we’re watching out for each other” way. I asked him why there are always policia on our street and he said that it was because of the cars parked here. That makes a lot of sense, because cars aren’t allowed to park on the main street that is one street over, so a lot of people park here. We don’t have a car in San Miguel, but I still appreciate the extra vigilance while they’re watching for stereo snatchers.

Speaking of security, our property manager, Norma, came by yesterday to collect the rent and make sure we were doing ok. She didn’t volunteer to take the scorpion out of the washer, so Norah and I removed it with my new kitchen tongs and saved it for the kids to examine. Maybe we’ll keep it as a souvenir. Norma told me that she is going to have a security gate installed on the outside of our door, not because she is particularly worried about our security but because she has had them installed on all of the houses she manages.  I think that will be nice, although it doesn’t comply with my egress standards.  I already told the kids that in the unlikely event of a fire (everything here is masonry so once the plants and upholstery flame out there’s not a lot to burn), we’re heading for the roof, where we can escape to other rooftops.

Norah and I went to La Biblioteca Publica yesterday to get a library card, which cost 200 pesos ($12.50) for the year. There was so much going on while we were there…kids playing chess, teenagers taking an English class, ladies doing embroidery. It’s a real hot spot and we hope to get involved in some of the activities there. Norah found Harry Potter en español but decided to read Esperanza Rising in English first.

Our other big accomplishment of the day was to meet with the facilitator who will help us finish the process of getting our temporary resident visas. She and her husband drove us to get our pictures taken, and gave us lots of advice about San Miguel on the way. She will handle everything with Immigration and all we have to do is go in a few weeks to get fingerprinted. Her fee is about $300 but I think it will be well worth it. She and her husband are both very nice, professional, and knowledgeable about the immigration process and everything else about SMA.

Now back to work!

Shutterfly

As many of you know, I make an annual photo book using the online service, Shutterfly.  The book is usually around 100 pages, and I buy copies for the grandparents so it’s a substantial investment, but I think it’s worth it.  The kids love to look at the books and it’s fun to look back over the years.  If I didn’t buy the books, the photos would likely stay on my hard drive until I worked up the energy to make a photo video, which hasn’t happened in a while.

Anyway, I really like Shutterfly’s system, and I’ve been happy with the quality of their photo books.  But just before Christmas the kids were looking at last year’s book and I noticed that some of the pages were falling out.  The kids can be pretty hard on stuff, so occasionally a page gets ripped, but there were several pages that were completely separated from the book.

I emailed Shutterfly, and they immediately credited my account for the full price of a replacement book.  This book was a whole year old, and it was pretty pricey – around $150!!  All I had to do was go into my saved projects on their site, reorder the book, and they shipped it.  I didn’t have to return the other book, and they even paid for the shipping on the replacement.  I’m really impressed, and I would highly recommend Shutterfly.

And since I’ve been lagging behind on the blog and have missed some of this year’s photo-ops, here’s our 2010 photo book for your viewing pleasure:

Traveling Light

I’m really starting to enjoy traveling for business again.  There was quite a long period of time when it was almost impossible for me to travel for work because of the kids.  But today I flew from Providence to Philadelphia for a one-day meeting tomorrow, and I barely made any preparations.  Ben facilitates most of the after-school activities anyway, and Grandma is adept at the lunch/snack/breakfast/bus routine.  I didn’t make any lists, obsess over anything, or lie awake last night wondering what I forgot to pack.  I got the kids to school this morning and then had an hour to get myself presentable, pack, and be on my way.  No problem.

The flight went smoothly, the rental car woman couldn’t have been nicer, and I arrived at the hotel with enough time to chill out before going out to dinner with my team-mates, where were were served the largest (no lie) plates of food I’ve ever seen.  I didn’t have to urge, bribe, or threaten anyone if they didn’t eat, nobody made a mess, and I didn’t have to whip out my purse-sized packet of wipes and wipe down any of my dinner companions.  Refreshing!

Now I’m back at the hotel and headed for bed – 3 or 4 hours earlier than usual!  Yes!!  I heard there’s a meeting coming up in Peoria.  I want in!!!

Update:  The next morning when one of our VPs asked me how I slept, I said, “I slept great!  Nobody climbed into bed with me…I mean, uh, no KIDS climbed into bed with me…or anybody else…”

Purge

A couple of months ago we spent about a week with a flooded basement, followed by a couple of after-floods.  We moved most of the stuff to higher ground in time, but some things got ruined and in the process of moving everything we found a lot of junk we hadn’t looked at in a very long time.  Our neighbor had flooding too, so we decided to split a dumpster and clean house.

The 12-yard dumpster has come and gone.  My sister-in-law was here over the weekend and said, “I thought you were going to get rid of a bunch of stuff.”  Apparently, removing 6 cubic yards of stuff from our house didn’t make a noticeable dent.

The other reason we needed a dumpster was because we had a small pile of construction debris from the countertop project that the town trash pickup won’t take because they don’t accept building materials.  It’s a sad testament to our procrastination problem that the satellite image of our house on Google Maps shows yet another pile of construction debris, from the bedroom closet project.  We also had a bunch of leftover siding from the siding project.

We currently have NO CONSTRUCTION DEBRIS.  Yay!

Dumpster, Pre-Purge:

Dumpster, Post-Purge:

29 Messes

Last month I completed the 29 Gifts challenge, and since then several people have asked me what I learned from it.  I learned two things:

1) I give way too many gifts because most of the gifts I gave during the challenge I would have given anyway.  I give so much of my time and energy away that I don’t have enough time or energy for myself or my family.  That’s probably not what the 29 Gifts people had in mind, but it’s the truth.

2) I was more focused on the task at hand (gift-giving) because of the challenge.  As soon as I woke up I would start thinking about what gift I was going to give that day.  It was a must-do item on my to-do list each day, so it got done.  I didn’t put the gift-giving off until tomorrow.

So.  I’m going to take what I learned and apply it.  My family and I have now embarked on a new challenge – 29 Messes.  I may have to change it to 99 Messes if I’m going to see any difference in my house, but I think it would be too overwhelming to start with 99 so I’ll start with 29.

The basis for this challenge is the fact that I can’t stand my house.  It’s not the house’s fault.  The house is actually a nice functional house, even though it was built in 1927 and moved to its current location in the 50’s.  It has enough bedrooms for everyone, a big family room that Ben and I built (seriously!) and a basement, garage, and attic space that is currently overcluttered and underutilized.  The yard is not bad when it’s neat and orderly.  The problem is that “neat and orderly” is not a phrase that anyone would use to describe my house – at least not for the last 9 years.

It’s not me.  I am neat and orderly by nature.  When I lived alone and had lots of time on my hands, my condo was neat and orderly to the EXTREME.  This is what my condo looked like:


And if you had opened any of the cabinets, drawers, or closets, you would have found containers labeled with the contents – everything had a place to live.

In my house, half the stuff we own has no place to live, and the other half got lost on the way back to its place and staggered off into someone else’s place (de ja vu).  The blame lies squarely on:

1) The Kids. I could make it a full-time job to follow them around and clean up after them.  I have tried putting their toys in time-out (they forget about them and we find the bags of toys after they’ve outgrown them), throwing toys away (Ben rescues them), creating routines to help them remember to pick up their toys, punishing them when they don’t, rewarding them when they do…all fruitless.

2) Ben. He’s a Hider.  When a cabinet gets too full, he puts a bunch of stuff in a bin or a plastic bag and puts it in the garage.  When I freak out because I can’t find my Sangria jug, he says that whenever I need one of the hidden items he’ll go get it for me.  Eventually we both forget that we even own the items, until one day we get a pleasant surprise when we open a giant Hefty bag and find the ice bucket (you may think this sounds funny but this is EXACTLY what happened 2 weeks ago).

3) Me. I have NO TIME.  NONE.  I am always running ahead to the next event, the next item on my to-do list (which I’m already late in completing), or the unforeseen emergency.  I put stuff in piles but I never take anything out.  I work at home a lot so I have work mixed with school forms, bills, kids’ artwork, magazines…you get the picture.  I’ve stopped noticing the writing on the walls (literally), the fingerprints on the windows, and the stuff that’s fallen off the to-do list.  Considering that I’m an organized person living in chaos, this makes me CRAZY!!!

In case you’re thinking “Hoarders” or “Clean House,” I can assure you that it’s nowhere near that bad.  It’s just not the way I want it – with a place for everything and everything in its place.  I realize that restoring order is not completely within my control, but I think I can improve the situation.  That’s why we will be tackling 29 messes (or 99) in the near future.  Some messes will be larger than others, but the point is to not only get rid of the mess but to figure out how to improve the situation that caused that particular mess.

Taking on the 29-Mess challenge is already working.  On Friday we started working on one mess that’s still in progress since we can’t find the saw to cut the wood to finish the project, but over the weekend I cleaned one kitchen cabinet, the kitchen windowsill (full of miscellaneous odds and ends), two kitchen baskets, and the top of the washer and dryer.  We also pruned 4 bushes and did some other yard work.  Not bad for a weekend that also included 3 soccer games, dinner with the in-laws, and a cookout with the neighbors.

5 messes down, 24 (or 94) to go!